How to Be A Better Dad – A Quick Guide

No matter how long you’ve been a parent, men are constantly asking how to be a better dad.

Thankfully, it’s much easier than you think to have a healthy family life.

In this post we will talk about taking care of yourself and ways you can better engage your kids. Now you’ll be sure to earn your #1 Dad coffee mug this Father’s Day.

Take care of yourself.

This might seem counterintuitive to becoming a better dad, but in order for you to be the best husband and dad, you need to be the best you.

This means you must prioritize your health, well being and self care. No more putting yourself on the backburner for work and other commitments.

Here are some things you can start doing today that will give you the energy and self esteem to be the best dad possible:

  1. Replace junk food with high-quality and nourishing foods.
  2. Spend at least a few minutes each day outside and in the sun.
  3. Find time to get a 20 to 30 minute walk in each day.
  4. Start a basic exercise routine of push-ups, pull-ups, air squats, and planks.
  5. Turn off electronics at least an hour before bed and get higher quality sleep.

By spending time on yourself, you will quickly notice that you’re happier and much more energetic. Two things you’ll definitely need to be a good dad and loving father.

Spend one-on-one time with your kids – even if it’s just 10 minutes a day.

It’s tough to find time to spend with your kids when you’re juggling a busy work schedule and other commitments, but it’s essential.

Make it a goal to spend at least ten minutes each day alone with each of your children. No distractions, no phones, just quality father-child time.

To make it even better, have your children decide what it is you’ll be doing for your quality time together.

This will empower and teach them that their opinions truly matter to you. This will only further your ability to build a strong relationship with them.

If your kids need some ideas, suggest things like:

  • talking
  • going for a walk
  • having a tea party
  • playing a board game
  • playing hide and seek or tag
  • exploring the world around you

Show them you care by listening to what they have to say

Your children need to know that you care about what they have to say. And sometimes the best way to do this is simply by listening.

Ask your kids how their day was at school or what the highlight of their week has been so far, then just listen. Really hear them out without interrupting or trying to solve any problems they might be facing.

When you listen to them, it shows that you are truly interested in what’s important to them and it helps build trust between the two of you which is essential for a strong father-child bond.

Be patient and understanding, even when they’re driving you crazy

Kids can be a handful sometimes. No matter how angry or frustrated you find yourself, do your best to not take it out on them.

Just remember that they are kids and still learning what’s right and wrong, so cut them some slack when they mess up.

If your child is having trouble at school or with doing their chores, be patient and understanding while they try to figure out how to solve the problem.

If you get upset or angry with them, it will only make them more frustrated which can lead to bad behavior.

There’s a reason why I often talk about the pause between stimulus and reaction. I believe it’s the most underrated superpower a good father can have.

Let them know that you’re proud of them, no matter what they achieve

It’s essential for your children to know that you’re proud of them, no matter what they achieve in life.

No matter if they get an A on their math test or score the winning goal in their soccer game, let them know how proud you are of them.

This will help boost their confidence and make them feel like they can take on the world.

And don’t be afraid of showing affection!

Set a good example.

Children learn by watching their parents. This means kids do as you do, not as you say. If your child catches you cheating or lying to get out of something, they might think that it’s okay to behave that way too.

Always set a good example for your kids by doing the right thing and demonstrating honesty no matter what.

If you mess up, own it. Apologize if need be and show them how to make things right again.

Set a good example for them by doing what’s right, even when no one is watching. This is the number one thing a good role model can do.

Let them know that it’s okay to make mistakes

Nobody’s perfect, and your kids need to know that it’s okay to make mistakes.

Making mistakes is a natural part of learning and growing, so tell them it’s okay to mess up every once in a while. Children need this level of reassurance.

This will help teach them how to handle failure and not be too hard on themselves when things don’t go as planned.

They’ll face adversity in school, with friends, in family life, and when facing difficult subjects out in the world. So they need to know how to handle it.

You can also use your own mistakes to teach them about the importance of learning from what went wrong so you don’t make those same mistakes again in future situations.


Being a great father is one of the most important jobs a man can have in his life.

While these tips are pretty obvious, sometimes we all need simple reminders on how to be a great dad. (Even good fathers need nudges from time to time.)

Take care of yourself. Have dedicated time with your children. Listen to them and engage them. Let them know how much you love them.

Do these things and your kids will be happier and so will you. You’ll prove to them you’re a loving father and you’ll even become a better husband. Win/win!